It’s no secret that I have used this platform to discuss some pretty personal and confronting issues. I’ve never been one to shy away from frankness or candour so it seems all but natural to be open about the struggles that I confront within myself daily. As time has gone on and this blog has seen more traffic, people have often asked me about my motivation behind disclosing things which are ‘that’ personal. On some occasions I’ve been met with that of utter bewilderment as it’s attempted to comprehend the incentive behind posting such deep emotional turmoil so publicly. Others have applauded my bravery and proclaimed that I must possess a certain amount of strength to be able to publish all that I do with such a doubtless ease. The truth behind my reasoning doesn’t actually encompass any of these elements; instead it lies to reason an unyielding desire for honesty in the never ending pursuit for answers within this life.
If I were to break this down most simply I would say that the reason why I share my heartbreak, my loss and my battles within myself and my own mind are to promote the idea that these elements are all a part of the human condition. They strike towards our utter and innate humanness and therefore should not be something that we hide away. The idea of striving towards a misguided form of perfection is as dangerous as it is flawed. Although it may be projected to us through a tiny glimpse of someone’s life through social media, it’s just that, a miniscule element of that person’s existence. It’s the part they put forward in order to meet society’s erroneous standards of what one’s life ought to look like. However, no one sees the battles that are had behind closed doors.
I suppose this blog, during its most personal, gut wrenching, soul shattering posts aims at correcting that standard. Instead it presents an alternative in which I invite everyone to value those things about oneself that you are most uncomfortable with. Embrace yourself and all of your beautiful imperfections; or at least try to, as I attempt to each and every day. I keep this space going in order to nurture the idea that we shouldn’t have to tuck away the things that we struggle with. That far from being deemed as shameful, we should instead be striving for a society in which openness and honesty are promoted. Whereby we value each other’s frailties, challenges and imperfections as the things that provide us with the strength to keep going and unite us in our joint humanity.
To our beautiful, fragile and diverse imperfections which are to be valued in their rawness.